Mommy Dating

Sounds great, doesn't it? It's not. It's not great at all. 

In this world of motherhood it sure would be nice to have other mommy friends who get the adventures and struggles of mommyhood. After you have your first baby, APPARENTLY, your other child free friends decide you might be contagious and forget about you. Of course there are some phone calls, facebook comments and an occasional email, but dinner and drinks? Forget about it. 

I never in a million years thought I would be DYING for a "moms night out". Oh how tacky that sounds. But nonetheless I am. SO I joined an online meetup group. And I keep making myself go to these EFFING meet ups. But you know what happens? I stand in the corner and shove my face full of brownies while Danika stands below me whining for her share. And occasionally someone comes over and says hello, but it's precisely at that moment that Danika decides to take off towards the open door or under someones foot, thus I have to run away from that well meaning mommy. 

Nate once called this mommy dating, as did a friend of ours, Ashley. It's like dating again, but not for the intention of finding your one true love, but for finding another mommy friend who puts up with your kid's annoyances and whose kids annoyances are also somewhat tolerable. I've been to parks, meet up groups, playdates, church functions, and the list goes on. And you know how many mommyfriends I've gotten? MMMMM, a few that I talk to regularly, but none that compare to past friendships. 

And you know what's interesting? WHen those now childfree former friends finally do have a kid guess what they'll be doing? Mommydating. And guess who they'll come mommydating to? Me. Because I am the only one who does not seem to be able to get a single date. WHich interestingly enough, was the same way I was when I wanted a boyfriend. Hmmm.